iCECREAM STYLE

Get Over it Already!

And all of us have had that veil removed so that we can be mirrors that brightly reflect the glory of the Lord. And as the Spirit of the Lord works within us, we become more and more like him and reflect his glory even more.

2 Corinthians 3:18 NLT

It’s funny how truth is. Regardless of whatever channel or religion you use to access the best and most powerful part of you, truth will forever remain truth. In the course of my work, I run across countless women who feel or believe they must lose however many pounds before they can commit to embrace or enhance their God-given power and beauty.

“When I drop 10-15 pounds, I’ll be ready.” Or “I don’t want to go shopping or buy anything until I lose the weight.” What I really hear is “Because I have put on however many pounds society does not deem as fit, I will subjugate myself to being miserable and I don’t even deserve a new dress, because I am not worthy. I’ve been bad for putting on this weight and I will punish myself.” I’ve been guilty of this sort of thinking too.

It’s Not Your Weight

I find this sort of thinking sad, self-defeating and delusional. What’s wrong with looking good in the skin you are in today? What’s wrong with loving, honoring, accepting, and embracing where you are now? Who says because you are a size whatever, you cannot look or feel your best and that you should slump and frump in your granny dresses and sweatpants? Why hide behind shapeless clothes? Since when did style have anything to do with your weight? Since when did elegance, charm, sophistication and charisma equal a size 2? Many women, regardless of her measurements, want to be smaller. But before that can be, you must accept the reality of where you are now. Once you’ve accepted your reality. Make the changes necessary with joy and enthusiasm. I can imagine and understand the immense pressure by society to live up to the ideals of being a size 0, but you know what? I’ll pass. I love having my hearty steak with mash potatoes, collard greens, and a roll from time to time, but I’m not going to neglect my personal appearance and sabotage my style until after I’ve starved myself into oblivion. If she’s a size 18, she’d settle for a nice size 12-14. If she’s a size 12-14, size 8-10 would sure be nice right now and if she’s a size 6-8, where did the veins and cellulite come from? If she’s a size 0 like my sister, she’d kill to have my voluptuous size 12 breasts and butt.

When Does Perfection End?

When does the desire for perfection end? Can you see that no matter what size you are, you won’t be satisfied? Did it ever occur to you that this sort of delusional thinking is just a cop out for you to avoid growing and developing and being the best you can be so that God can use who you are to enlighten and enrich someone else’s life? Growing is inevitable. How you grow is up to you. You can spend that time wallowing in self-pity and denying the fact that you’ve got to get out there and build relationships with others, or you can step up, shape up, shake up, and do the dance of joy and beauty, allowing your life to count for something. Woe is me, I hear from women about their weight instead of being thankful that they have been provided with food to eat in the first place. Ok so you’ve had more than you felt you needed. Stop feeling guilty, embrace it and move on. Get over it. I understand if you are at an unhealthy place bordering on obesity and high blood pressure, and are facing death directly. Well in that case, see a doctor, get the help you need and begin to start taking care of you NOW! If that is truly not your situation, can you repeat after me: LOVING OTHERS, BEGINS WITH FIRST LOVING ME…TODAY!! I’m sorry to preach to you and that it sounds cliché, but if you heard what I hear on a daily basis, you’d be writing this verbatim too. I love all of my clients and my desire is to elevate others and that they would be transformed with the grace of God through style. The girly girl inside of you is screaming out for you to embrace her, pamper her and love her. A healthy self-esteem does not come from being a size 2 or what you wear when you become a size 2. Regardless of size or weight, we all are prone to fluctuating levels of self-esteem. Healthy self-esteem comes from behaving well. Not only toward yourself; for example; eating well, making wiser choices, exercising, wearing your best clothes, but also behaving well to others.

Gain An Intimate Knowledge of Your Body

Understand that looking good comes from knowing your body type and dressing for your body type, not your weight. Learn what styles and shapes suit and flatter your existing body type today. Dress for your personality, your lifestyle, your body type, your natural coloring and you will be that mirror that brightly reflects the glory of the Lord. As the singer Mary J. Blige would have you say, “I like what I see when I’m looking at me when I’m walking past the mirror.” Call this vain all you want, but confidence does not come cheap. Going after your goals and dreams and sharing your ideas with others is a task all on its own and you may not be able to control how others respond, but you can control what you project. It’s not your job to worry so much about how well you are being perceived. You job is to just to focus on being your best you, starting with what you’ve got.

As you grow spiritually, mentally and emotionally, it will manifest itself in the physical, beginning with your physical appearance, the clothes you put on your back, to even the way you decide to decorate your home. Everything tangible thing in your life will reflect that manifestation. Decide to feel and look beautiful today. Remember the fun is in the journey. Whether you are a size 0 or a 24, dress to flatter your body type today. Wear clothes that complement your coloring today! Wear makeup that illuminates your skin today! Buy those sexy red shoes today! Style has nothing to do with your weight. Your style will only reflect the glory of the Lord as you become better, brighter, and more beautiful. Embrace your sexiness today as if today were your last. It could very well be.